A large part of who we are as a person in life depends on the people we surround ourselves with. Sometimes the lack of selection of who enters and settles in leisure, and who becomes influential in it, proves harmful. A person should be surrounded by people who make him feel better, do good deeds, want to develop and who inspire and love him.
Forbs believes that anyone can identify if they have associated with harmful people and change that by leaving the bad company. First we need to realize who these individuals are. There are signs that betray them and show that the time has come to free ourselves from their influence:
People who only have time for us when it’s convenient for them . You shouldn’t force anyone to make space for you in their life. He who cares will do it of his own accord.
They use our past against us . There are individuals who refuse to accept that we are no longer who we were before — we may have made mistakes in the past, but we are already ahead in the future compared to those moments. We have changed, at best we have learned a lesson. Sometimes some old acquaintances refuse to accept the fact that we have grown up and taken a step forward. They draw our gaze back to the past. Don’t help them in trying to recall and validate your bad behavior.
With them we feel trapped. Healthy relationships are a house where the doors and windows are open. If someone is making you feel limited and closed off to the outside world and being yourself, break free. You also do not limit anyone.
They make fun of our dreams and abilities. If you let them, they are holding you back from achieving what only you know you can. What you are capable of doing depends only on your opinion, your choice, your time and energy.
We have been lied to more than once. To love is not words, but actions. It is not only passion and beauty, but also respect. If you allow someone who often lies into your life, you start to look like him — by trusting him more and more, you both deceive yourself that this can continue.
Their negativity breaks us. These are people who are not negative with our behavior towards ourselves, but towards everything else. Often to others with whom we communicate. Their negativity rubs off on us. What they say and do is basically a projection of their own reality, of their personal problems. Sometimes they insult us directly, and in fact their anger has nothing to do with us. These people have a problem with themselves, don’t let them transfer it. They envy what we have. Your success provokes in them a desire to have it — the same, even though it is impossible.
They motivate us to judge and hate others. The truth is that everyone is a person in the world and there are no perfect beings. The posture of a judge, of a moral jury, of a critic and a hater is a manifestation of a lack of intelligence — it shows that we are not aware of how we ourselves are far from perfect. Those who encourage us to do so are bad company.
They want us to become someone else. A simple rule is: spend time with loved ones who accept you as you are. Make even more time for those who truly know and respect you and love you nonetheless.
